Category Archives: Divorce Mediation

To share useful information on divorce or mediation that can be used to improve the lives of children and the adults who are undergoing such a difficult time.

What to Expect When Divorcing

By Dan Blair, a marriage counselor and family counselor.

Divorce can be devastating, from the immediate aftermath effects on finances, parenting, and social status. Understanding the aftermath, realignment and stabilization phases can help, though it still takes time to recover. 

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Ex Communication

By Dan Blair, a marriage counselor and family counselor.

To resolve issues with an “ex” in an unavoidable divorce, present and future co-parents may have to be at the point where they are tired of having issues and spending money for going to court.  To resolve issues co-parents have to let go of total control, which can be scary.  One also has to set aside the anger, hurt, and betrayal that fuels ongoing conflict.  The emotion is understandable, Continue reading Ex Communication

Protecting Children in Divorce

By Dan Blair, a marriage counselor and family counselor.

You can make a difference when it comes to insulating your children from the harmful effects of unavoidable divorce.  Children of divorce are most affected by ongoing conflict, absent parents, and financial shifts in lifestyle.  Moreover, how the child responds to the divorce is modeled by how each parent deals with it.  Generally, if the parents are coping well, the children are coping well. Continue reading Protecting Children in Divorce

Divorce Mediation FAQ About Finances

By Dan Blair, a marriage counselor and family counselor.

Here are some questions that need to be answered in the best financial interest of the family:

1. Have I consulted with an attorney and/or a tax accountant specializing in divorce so I understand my best options when filing for taxes?
2. Who will claim the children for dependent tax exemptions? Continue reading Divorce Mediation FAQ About Finances

Divorce Mediation FAQ About the Children

By Dan Blair, a marriage counselor and family counselor.

Here are some questions that will have to be answered not by the mediator, but by the parents in the best interest of their children:

1. What is in the best interest of the child when determining custody?

2. Will child care be needed? Continue reading Divorce Mediation FAQ About the Children

Is Divorce Mediation Worth It?

By Dan Blair, a marriage counselor and family counselor.

Two of the main goals for divorce mediation in unavoidable divorce are to save money and time in a long process, and reduce antagonism and stress that can come from an adversarial process.  Two well-attested facts are:
1. Kids are most damaged by the fighting between the parents.
2. The money spent in litigation could be used for more desirable things, and for your kids.

Often litigation is the only option.  But if divorce mediation is used, the benefits are worthwhile. Divorce mediation: Continue reading Is Divorce Mediation Worth It?