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What Is Parenting Coordination?

Parenting coordination is a future trend and a viable option to custody battles. When parents are not able come to an agreement regarding their children a parent coordinator will mediate the issue. If parents are still not able to come to an agreement a parent coordinator gathers information to make a decision in the child’s best interest.

The couple agrees to abide by that decision per a court order or parent consent agreement. Some decisions may go one parent’s way and other decisions may go the other’s. This dispute resolution process focuses on the children’s needs and is an alternative to repeated returns to court and/or ongoing conflict that may otherwise continue indefinitely.

Parent coordination can be used to develop adherence to a parenting plan and as a quicker analysis and resolution of child-related parental disputes. The aim of parenting coordination is to stem the drain on family financial and emotional resources by resolving any disputes arising between parents. Note that a parenting coordinator does not resolve the matter of custody, but may be used as an interim basis to the address the implementation of a temporary parenting plan.

The author is Dan Blair, LMFT, LCPC, NCPC is a Nationally Certified Parenting Coordinator and is trained to draft arbitration decisions with precision.

Is Divorce Mediation Worth It?

 

Angry wife showing bills

By Dan Blair, a marriage counselor and family counselor.

Two of the main goals for divorce mediation in unavoidable divorce are to save money and time in a long process, and reduce antagonism and stress that can come from an adversarial process.  Two well-attested facts are:
1. Kids are most damaged by the fighting between the parents.
2. The money spent in litigation could be used for more desirable things, and for your kids.

Often litigation is the only option.  But if divorce mediation is used, the benefits are worthwhile. Divorce mediation:

  • Reduces the negative effects of divorce on children
  • Increases satisfaction with the outcome compared to litigation alone
  • Reduces the chance of returning to court after divorce
  • Reduces costs. Mediation can be used for all or part of a divorce.
  • Customizes agreements based on unique situations.

QUICK ANSWERS ABOUT DIVORCE MEDIATION

What does a mediator do?

The goal of mediation is to create a way to communicate and resolve issues that are unresolved.  All agreements are finalized without coercion or pressure.  The mediator will document agreements in a Memorandum of Understanding that will be reviewed by your lawyer before divorce is finalized in court.

What does a mediator not do?

Both parties will be encouraged to seek advice from attorneys, accountants, counselors, etc. so accurate information is available.  The mediator does not act in any of these roles.  The mediator also does not break confidentiality unless there is written permission or a legal mandate to do so.

What will we talk about?

Decisions that have to be made in a divorce process include (but are not limited to) parenting, custody, division of assets/liabilities, child and spousal support, insurance, and tax filing.  Blair Counseling and Mediation can mediate all or part of a dispute.

Is mediation appropriate for me?

All parties to a dispute must be willing to participate and capable of informed decision-making based on full disclosure of information.  Each party must be comfortable disagreeing with another party in the same room and not fear retaliation.  Neither party must be subject to domestic violence or threats.